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  • cqwww 8:14 pm on March 14, 2018 Permalink | Reply  

    Understanding Co-dependence 

    I’d heard the term codependence many times before, and usually associated it with romantic relationships. A friend of mine mentioned she recently read a book on Facing Codependence from Pia Mellody. I did a youtube search and found a 10 minute video that I find myself recommending a lot the last few weeks. From there I’ve watched a lot of Pia’s longer videos.

    My big take away was her referring to the word abuse, and the suggestion that in our culture we usually only refer to abuse as violent physical or sexual actions. However the suggestion is that codependence is when you take any actions or behaviours that are intended to condition the other human to behave in a way you want them to behave, as opposed to how they want to behave in order to be the best versions of themselves.

    This is likely easiest to think of your parents — how many of their actions are conditioning you to be like them and how they want(ed) you to be, vs supporting you in your endeavours, no matter how polarized these desires are from their own beliefs.

    My challenge to you, is for the next week whenever you interact with another human, consider how much of your behaviour is selfless actions to support them, vs codependent behaviours.

    • cqwww 11:33 am on March 6, 2018 Permalink | Reply  

      Phone scammers pretending to be CRA 

      In Canada, there is a popular phone scam where the caller will pretend to be the Customs and Revenue Agency (CRA — Canada’s version of the IRS). A few things to remember:

      1. All phone numbers can be spoofed now. Don’t trust the caller ID.
      2. With tools like lyrebird, you can’t trust the voice on the end of a phone call any longer.
      3. CRA uses registered mail, not phone or email.

      The government of Canada set setup a page with the warning signs, and how to protect yourself, which also has a list of numbers you can call if you’re a victim. Also note there is a Canadian do not call list you likely want to get yourself on, as if you’re on this list, you have another organization you can complain to about these harassing calls. If you did receive a call that violated the Unsolicited telemarketing rules, here is the complaint form.

      • cqwww 6:19 pm on February 16, 2018 Permalink | Reply  

        What do you practice? 

        A great reminder from Prem Rawat via young Ali Sherazi.

        On top of critically thinking about which mental states we regularly practice, I have a pragmatic skill improvement personal story as well that hopefully inspires.

        Myself, I have Go and Sudoku games on my smart phone. When I have a few minutes free, I play them. On Go, I level up when I beat a level, so over time I’ve managed to now play on the hardest level. For sudoku, I no longer with an eraser enabled, I only enter numbers I’ve sure of — and I’ve made it to the second highest level in my app. I was terrible when I started both of these, but only after years of playing them, have a become better. Once I get to the top level on Sudoku, I plan on installing cognitive enhancement game, dual n back.

        • cqwww 11:15 pm on February 14, 2018 Permalink | Reply  

          Free credit score and reports for Canadians 

          I just came across this free credit score and report service, called BorrowWell.com. They appear to respect your privacy (other than running several privacy bug trackers on their website), and make their revenue through referrals like loans and credit cards. Note, BorrowWell only uses Equifax, so read on to make a TransUnion manual request as well.

          I recommend at a minimum of an annual credit check, as this is how many people find out they’ve been victims of identify theft — make sure all of the items listed in your report are credit items you’ve requested. By law, credit reporting agencies have to provide you with a free annual report, but charge you for an online account, so you can manually request your credit score if you don’t trust borrowwell and don’t want to pay Equifax/Transunion.

          Once a year print of these documents: Equifax free report request form [PDF] and TransUnion free report request form [PDF]. Note that these two organizations are not synchronized, and in my experience you have issues reporting on one of them, or not the other, so make sure you’re checking both!

          • cqwww 12:14 pm on January 15, 2018 Permalink | Reply  

            Neurotic Neurons: An Interactive explanation http://ncase.me/neurons/

            • cqwww 1:07 am on January 15, 2018 Permalink | Reply  

              Today’s cryptocurrencies worth paying attention to (and the ones worth avoiding) 

              I’m often asked which cryptocurrencies one should invest in, and I should state this is absolutely not financial advice. Do your own due diligence, not just for investing, but everything in life. That being said, the top practical dcoins for me right now:

              • Stellar (XLM), in terms of platform
              • Monero (XMR), in terms of  a usable, privacy-centric cryptocurrency that works right now
              • and of course Bitcoin (BTC), in terms of a heavily volatile store of value, which you need to acquire most other cryptocurrencies. Its temporary time and cost issues appear to be soon resolved with https://lightning.network

              Notable mentions to Request Network and Quantstamp, whom both have been accepted into tech accelerator extraordinaire, ycombinator. Most tech startups that go through YC effectively become millionaires just by being accepted.

              My thoughts on the biggest sh*tcoins, which are only still only alive due to hypecycle:

              • Tron (TRX)
              • Verge (XVG)
              • Tether (USDT)

              and notable mention to Ripple (XRP) whom are still some how convincing people to invest in them.

              If you’re playing in the day trading space, that’s solely based on hype cycle, but the top ones I mentioned are based on technology that I feel can sustain the others and so I’m watching them medium/long term. With over 1,000 cryptocurrencies, I have many thoughts on many others, but I figure a top 3 technology wise and a bottom of the barrel 3 technology and integrity wise was worth an article so I can just point people here instead of repeating the same thing.

              • cqwww 11:54 pm on January 14, 2018 Permalink | Reply  

                Himalayan Bath Salt Lamps and Essential Oils 

                One of the feedback I got from the podcast on sleep was to consider Himalayan Bath Salts, and Essential oils.
                According to Snopes, Himalayan Bath Salt Lamps do nothing other than provide a lighting source.

                Unlike the lamps, there is some science on Aromatherapy and essential oils. Although one quote concerned me enough to avoid them, “Lavender and tea tree essential oils have been found to have some hormone-like effects. They have effects similar to estrogen (female sex hormone) and also block or decrease the effect of androgens (male sex hormones). “

                No thanks 

                On the lighting side, Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) lightning seems like a better solution than salt lamps, maybe I’ll get one of these: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4673349/

                What is your experience with the three of these? When someone recommends a cure or solution to one of your issues, do you look up the science to validate its efficacy?


                • cqwww 3:25 am on January 12, 2018 Permalink | Reply  

                  Kris & Tamsin – Episode 2 – Death, and the Paradox of Choice 

                  Only one URL referenced this podcast: Joe Rogan Experience

                  Our questions, after you listen:

                  Tamsin wants to know if we’re normal, and if this podcast conversation is motivating, interesting, or annoying, and why?
                  Kris is looking for topic areas; what would you like to hear us talk about?



                  • cqwww 11:29 pm on January 10, 2018 Permalink | Reply  

                    Kris & Tamsin – Episode 1 – How do you correct unexpected sleeping habits 


                    Kris’ voice the first half, Tamsin’s on the second.


                    • cqwww 9:43 am on January 9, 2018 Permalink | Reply  

                      Topic planning the creation of a podcast with Tamsin Smith 

                      Planning topics for a podcast with Tamsin Smith; on Wednesday we plan on going to the gym, yoga, and then chatting through some of the following topics:

                      • cqwww 10:38 pm on January 8, 2018 Permalink | Reply  

                        Bitcoin price predictions for 2018 thread.

                        +5k USD bump in the next 45 days.

                        • cqwww 8:42 am on January 8, 2018 Permalink | Reply  

                          Starting a podcast with Tamsin Smith 

                          I caught up with my friend Tamsin Smith after she spent a few weeks in Mexico, and we were talking about cleansing our mental palate, as well as starting a podcast. I pulled out my cell phone and hit record (which explains the unbalanced audio).

                          In this chat we discuss:

                          • Mental Palate Cleansing
                          • Minimalism
                          • Tiny Houses
                          • Yoga/Breathwork
                          • Habit formation around these
                          • Exercising your eyes

                          And we finished with a proposed podcast title:
                          Bitcoin Burnout Building Bold Habits

                          Listen here:

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